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Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Trust


When we were little kids our universe and the kind of life we've shared and lived was so simple. It would consist of parents, siblings and two or three friends. We trust our parents to take care of us, to make the right decisions concerning school and education, to have faith in us, to support us, to give us their advices in order to walk in the right path and to avoid doing mistakes by sharing their experiences and listening, to pay attention to our needs and fulfill them, to help us strengthen our abilities and talents...to encourage us to have our own hobbies, and to raise us in such a way that combines between mutual respect and love. We trusted our siblings and friends to be there for us when we need them... to comfort us, to share our pains and laughs... to be part of our lives and to witness our victories and failures.


We would start building a sense of trust in a small circle that matches the kind of life and the simplicity of life we're having. Then it starts to move to another level and develops... it starts to grow in a different way and a different aspect.

As we grow, things get more complicated... and what was simple would no longer be simple... the cirlce gets bigger, and life gets more complicated... the kind of trust we try to gain starts to get more important by establishing a basic role in supplying security.

To gain security is what makes you go on, and what makes you stronger and more determined to succeed in whatever you're doing.
It's what gives you a peace of mind...as suspicion can destroy a person's peace of mind, while trust enhances it.

It happens often, you spend years and years in building trust but it takes one a silly stupid moment to destroy it all... and then you need to start from zero, to build it again, but this time it takes double the energy and effort.. you need to have strong faith that this time it will be worth the effort!



for someone to betray your trust,- it wouldn't really occur to that person at that moment how hard it will be to gain your trust again... because if s/he had the slightest thought about it, s/he wouldn't really risk it... this is also due to the fact that many people believe in forgiving but not forgetting... and to be able to build the trust fast you need to be able to forget...
To trust someone it means for you to have faith and belief that you won't get disspointed or hurt.. that this person is worth the trust... that you're in a relationship which is strong enough not to be destroyed over the silliest reasons.. that the bond you're sharing is as solid as a rock and stable as a wok,,, that you're believing in a better future and that this relationship is part of what leads you to it...

What's more important than love, is the ability to trust... when you feel you've reached this level of unconditional trust... then you're safe- and you can enjoy both, giving and loving unconditionally.

4 Comments:

  • At September 20, 2006 , Blogger ABOUD said...

    True love implies trust.

    When you love those who betray, you will forget, or at least neglect what they have done to you.

     
  • At September 20, 2006 , Blogger manal yusuf said...

    well said deema, everything you said is so ture, but once the trust is gone it is hard to gain it again, almost never like before

     
  • At September 20, 2006 , Blogger and life goes on... said...

    Aboud... if you were lucky enough (or let's say if s/he was lucky enough) then you'd be able to trust one who betrayed you again! As this happens rarely...

    Manal... exaclty!!! Almost never like before!

     
  • At September 20, 2006 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    Trust is neatly and strongly tied to two most valuable and sensitive things for any person that has common sense and grip on his life.
    Once betrayed, or worst even, cheated, nothing is the same as teh dark cloud of remorse for being open to someone.
    Human soul, no matter of how strong the personality is, is just thin as a finest glass, and once broken is never the same. Being betrayed, person feels regret that has trusted the other. Forgive but dont forget is human thing, and the best is to leave the bad behind and move on. Nothing can be the same, dont ever lie to your soul....

     

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