I respect
I respect someone who looks straight in my eyes and says, 'I want to be with you now, and i'll do my best for us to be together tomorrow,
BUT I just can't promise because no one knows what will happen in a few hours, days, or years!'
I respect him for the courage, for the honesty and for the fact that this doesn't make me feel less loved... it just makes love more realistic, true and real.
I disrepect someone who looks straight in my eyes and says, 'we will get married in whatever years time, in the winter/summer/spring/autumn, in the year of 20**.'
This is what I call an open invitaion to live a lie.
And anything that is based on a lie has only one destiny... a miserable ending.
posted by and life goes on... @ 8:07:00 AM
10 Comments:
At January 27, 2007 ,
Anonymous said...
But don't you think that a response based on an impulse in the heat of the moment might not be a wise decision by someone? Or Poor planning?
Don't disregard someone because he knows where he will be in a few years .. in fact, that Might be the better choice
Weigh it ... think about it ... and then .. and only then ... decide
At January 27, 2007 ,
Ammar said...
Hmm..not sure how to tackle this one..but people will tell you anything to keep you from leaving them..it's a selfish attribute in humans..fear of loss.
But, saying that..one should be generous..and fair, what comes to mind in this case is this:
"If you love someone..set them free", they'll stay if they trust you.
At January 27, 2007 ,
Unknown said...
"open invitation to live a lie",wow! well said dima! I can't agree more:)
At January 27, 2007 ,
and life goes on... said...
I believe such decision made by heat of the moment is to be flushed down the toilet if its life changing with a promise.
Poor planning is when you say you'd do something in a couple of years time and we're meant 1 to 1 in life, that's poor planning, and laughing at oneself.
'Don't disregard someone because he knows where he will be in a few years .. in fact, that Might be the better choice'
Unlikely to be a better choice, someone who claims to know the future, and is unrealistic, is only after somebody to own....
as this is true "If you love someone..set them free", they'll stay if they trust you.
You don't know where you'll be in a few years time, - you can only hope, prepare, and work towards something, but whether you achieve it or not is not something to abide by...
the person I'm respecting, with their choice of words in honesty reflects their maturity and understanding, that people change, circumstances change, and with their present they are truthful, and hopeful of tomorrow, but no false promises made.
Oh now I feel that this should be another post... !
At January 27, 2007 ,
and life goes on... said...
Nido :) im glad you agree, as miso strongly doesn't!
We had a long discussion the other day.. and she kept saying how can you imagine being with someone who says I can't promise you because I don't know what will happen...
At January 27, 2007 ,
Anonymous said...
True, no one knows where they're going to be in few years.
But don't you think that someone who you accept and finds himself unworthy of you "right now" is someone valuing you so highly? Or undervaluing himself? It's worth a little pause and thinking .. right? (by the way, that's all I'm saying as the bottom line, just sleep over it)
Someone telling you in a few years might be the one telling you the truth actually. In addition to the truth, he might be asking for your support. If you think he's worth it... you will give it to him. If you do love him, you will wait ..
But if he's just another john doe, who happens to potentially be a good choice sometime in the future ... then .. I guess you're right, what's the use of waiting .. take the ready made instant noodle guy!
Just kidding you there on the sarcastic tone, I know both might be good .. but good is not good enough if you know what I mean :)
At January 27, 2007 ,
and life goes on... said...
The waiting issue is not the main point here.
It's the way to talk about future plans.
All the false promises that might be made at that moment simply because as I said earlier 'people change, circumstances change, and with their present they are truthful, and hopeful of tomorrow, but no false promises made.'
At January 28, 2007 ,
Unknown said...
well dima if its just a discusion than i totally agree with you on everything u said but Q makes it sound like if there is something happening, by him saying: "sleep over it then decide" only then i agree with him when he is warning you from "the ready made instant noodle guy"
and at some certain point you both are agreeing on the same thing, which is the guy who is valuaing you so highly and couraguosly being honest and says:"i need more time" is the right guy for you whether taht time of waiting is spent together or spend parted in some other cases, is always worth a million years of waiting ofcourse if you end up with each other.
At January 28, 2007 ,
Abed. Hamdan said...
Actually I'll respect someone who is capabale of getting married immediately and says it directly.(without promises)
Probably this is the only scenario I respect and acknowledge.
At January 28, 2007 ,
and life goes on... said...
manal yusuf,,, it's just a discussion. And again the waiting issue is not the point here!!!
Abed. Hamdan... oh yeah! You definitely have a point here :)
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